DAUGHTER OF LESBIANS  -  I NEEDED A DAD
Michael F. Haverluck – March 28, 2015 - OneNewsNow.com

 

With the argument for homosexual adoption ramping up as thirteen states fear same-sex "marriage" will soon be imposed upon them, the daughter of a lesbian couple is opposing its legalization, arguing that such unions are harmful to children.

 

Heather Barwick was brought up in a home by two lesbian mothers.  Barwick, now married to a man and raising four children, argues that growing up in a same-sex household is detrimental to a child's development — a realization she didn't come to until she was well into her twenties.

 

"Growing up, and even into my twenties, I supported and advocated for gay marriage," Barwick stated in The Federalist.  "It's only with some time and distance from my childhood that I'm able to reflect on my experiences and recognize the long-term consequences that same-sex parenting had on me."

 

After seeing how her own children flourished by having a father in their lives, Barwick became even more convinced that the fatherless life she had as a child hurt her in more ways than she previously recognized.

 

"And it's only now, as I watch my children loving and being loved by their father each day, that I can see the beauty and wisdom in traditional marriage and parenting," Barwick added.

 

'I so desperately wanted a daddy.'

 

Just as advocates for normal marriage have been saying for years, Barwick agrees that the legalization of same-sex marriage works to deprive a child of an essential element that they desperately need growing up — a father or a mother.  She contends that neither is expendable or exchangeable for another parent of the same sex.

 

"A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting," Barwick shared.  "My father's absence created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad."

 

Barwick stresses how missing a parent from one gender cannot be mitigated by more of the same, no matter how loving or nurturing they are.  She says having no father in her home left a hole in her heart that will always be there.

 

"I loved my mom's partner, but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost," she explained — a story that is becoming more and more common as same-sex adoption sweeps across the nation.

 

Barwick insists that no matter how much indoctrination she was exposed to telling her otherwise, her natural and innate desire for a father was never eradicated.  "I grew up surrounded by women who said they didn't need or want a man," Barwick recollected.  "Yet, as a little girl, I so desperately wanted a daddy."

 

While growing up in the LGBT community, Barwick says, homosexuals would constantly attempt to brainwash her that a man in her life wasn't required — defying her own logic and innate sense.

 

"It is a strange and confusing thing to walk around with this deep-down unquenchable ache for a father, for a man, in a community that says that men are unnecessary," Barwick continued.

 

That's exactly what we've been saying all along

 

Liberty Counsel founder and chairman Mat Staver points out that Barwick's story is a sad reality that is proliferating across the nation because of the same-sex marriage deluge that has already reached thirty-seven states — with virtually all of them, save a few, legalizing it under the Obama administration's push for LGBT "rights."

 

"Heather Barwick's story about how she and other children raised by same-sex parents are harmed by the lack of the opposite-gender parent is just one of many reasons why same-sex marriage and same-sex adoption are wrong," Staver argues.  "We should pass laws that strengthen the family, not tear it down by dooming children to a single-gender set of parents."

 

Staver contends that conservative and pro-family organizations aren't primarily opposed to same-sex marriage legislation to keep homosexual partners from expressing their devotion to one another.  He maintains that championing the traditional family is first and foremost about the children, who deserve to be raised in households that meet their emotional, spiritual, and developmental needs in order for them to properly function later in life as adults in healthy relationships.

 

"The policy of same-sex unions says that moms and dads are irrelevant to the well-being of children," Staver concludes.  "The social experiment of same-sex unions is hurting children."